The principles of loving
- More than anything else, we want to love and be loved.
- Love is a gift.
- Love is not time bound.
- Love is good will in action.
- Love is a response to need.
The skills of loving
I do not look over or through you. I see you in your uniqueness.
I listen to what you are saying.
Honoring of feelings and ideas
I recognize and affirm your right to feel and think as you do.
Having good will
I will you good and not evil. I care about you.
Responding to need
If you let me know what your needs are, within the limits of my value system, I will not run away. I will be there for you.
– Gerald J. and Elisabeth Jud, from their 1972 book Training in the Art of Loving